Let’s establish a few facts:
- Life is more than beautiful – it is all there is, all we have, and the only thing worth fighting for as all else depends upon it.
- Life is also chaos, but that chaos and uncertainty is what drives innovation, growth, and possibility. You may not control the whims and winds of the universe, but you CAN control your own story. YOU dictate who you are, where you go, and how you get there. Things happen – but you control what that happening means and where it takes you.
- Your body tells a story; it is the vehicle through which you move through the world; it is a temple, a miracle – it should empower you to celebrate the gift of your life and to move through the world (and all its possibility).
- To live your best life, you must nourish that body, write your story, and take responsibility for your health and wellness.
These facts leave us with two critical questions: How do you live your best life? How do you write your story?
In the world of fitness, we hear the world “control” a lot. And for good reason.
Control, aka awareness and purposeful action, is essential to realizing any goal and to living that best life.
You must know what was, what is, and what you want/need to realize your best life, to make critical choices, and to manage and direct your thoughts, emotions, and actions.
But control alone is dangerous and, well, miserable. It leaves no room for possibility or transformation – for detours or growth, for the unexpected. It does not allow for life to happen (and these happenings are essential to your becoming).
Control MUST be balanced with self awareness and flexibility.
Flexibility cultivates vision and compassion – the grace needed to bounce back, to expand out, to adapt, and to move forward.
Self awareness empowers you to see yourself as you are and as you might be without filters, without guilt, and without shame.
Control then ensures that you craft an effective “plan of attack” for realizing that best life and the determination to see that plan through.
One does not work without the other – but in the fitness world, “control” is usually all you get.
Most fitness programs demand that you CONTROL what you eat (your portions, your calories, even when you can eat). They demand that you CONTROL your nutrients (eliminating entire food groups), that you DEPRIVE yourself to the point of starvation. That you DEPRIVE yourself of the joy and connection that food provides (birthdays, holidays, dinners out, wine Wednesdays, etc.) and that you replace that joy with fear, shame, guilt, and self-loathing.
While some control is a good thing, too much not only damages your body, it fosters a dysfunctional and negative relationship with food and nutrition which makes living a healthy lifestyle (and that best life) impossible to realize in the long term.
During my last challenge, I was obsessed with losing weight and being successful. So…I didn’t do anything. I didn’t go anywhere for two months. I didn’t eat out. I didn’t have lunch with family or friends; I didn’t go to birthdays or out with my husband. I didn’t do anything but count, obsess, and worry that I was still eating too much (or not enough).
You can control your calories, exercise, and food intake to the point of obsession for weeks, months, maybe even a year…but eventually real life is going to happen. Your control and best laid plans will falter. And without flexibility and self-awareness, they will break, leading to an ongoing cycle of starve-binge-starve-binge, marked by the latest diet trend and an unhealthy dose of shame and guilt. You will lose weight – then gain it back. You will blame yourself. You will develop a collection of internet memes, telling you to just “be stronger, have more control, be more disciplined” and then next time will be different. You will believe that you are not good enough and that your plateau is a sign of your inadequacy.
This cycle isn’t one that is meant to be broken. It will NEVER be different unless you change how you see yourself and food. You will NEVER be healthy if you do not have a positive and nurturing relationship with food and nutrition as your baseline.
What is a healthy relationship with food?
It means being able to realize a healthy weight without starvation, obsession, fad diets, cleanses, or restrictions.
It means building self awareness and self love.
It means resolving the underlying issues that lead to disordered eating, binge eating, emotional eating, and stress eating.
It means enjoying food without guilt or shame.
It means balancing that control with flexibility and a bit of grace and compassion.
It means mindfulness, tuning in to your body and its specific needs.
It means no more despair or self-loathing, no more counting calories or containers, no more “kitchen ab” memes.
It means STOP – stop abusing your body, stop the guilt trip, stop the cycle.
And it means breaking free – to rediscover balance. To stop fighting your body and to start nourishing it; to STOP obsessing over your life and to START living it.
Let me show you how.
The Ready 2B Fierce and Free Mindful Eating Program Registration is now Open! Day 1 begins May 14.
Exercise is not required (but is optional and encouraged). There is no calorie counting, no portion containers, no restriction, no starvation, no gimmicks. It is a knowledge and education based program meant to foster self awareness and flexibility while building confidence, promoting healthy weight loss, and ensuring a positive relationship with food and thus, with yourself.
Are you ready to break free of that cycle, abandon the guilt and gimmicks, and embrace a new way of eating, living, and most importantly, of celebrating you?
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